Family Law eNewsletter

On behalf of the Family Law department, in partnership with Divorce Magazine, Capehart Scatchard is proud to present our monthly Family Law eNewsletter! Each article contains informative content and tips we hope you find beneficial and supportive.

2019

The beginning of a new year makes us think about last-minute things we need to address. Use this new year financial checklist to remind you of what you need to consider or change because of your divorce.

Self-medicating is not a good long-term strategy. Instead, turn pain into gain by learning how to nurture yourself.

What happens when your spouse has one foot out the door and you don’t know it? You weather the divorce storm and give recovery time to catch up to your feelings.

Here’s what you should know to protect your business during during this difficult period.

Creating a detailed parenting plan will smooth the road ahead as you begin co-parenting with your ex-spouse.

2018

You need to move fast: you only have until the end of 2018 to take advantage of the old, more favorable US tax laws.

Self-medicating is not a good long-term strategy. Instead, turn pain into gain by learning how to nurture yourself.

It doesn’t matter why you got divorced. What matters is how willing you are to jump-start your new life and let go of the past.

The best present you can give your children is an enjoyable and stress-free holiday season!

What to do with frozen embryos is an emotionally-charged question for divorcing couples.

This year, consider celebrating “Friendsgiving”; here are 10 things to be thankful for, and 10 ways to enjoy the holidays.

You’ll have to make important decisions during divorce; this Q&A could help you make better, more informed choices.

You might feel that finding a new partner should be a priority, but you should really take time to discover the “New You” first.

Divorced from an alcoholic? Do you have a plan in place in case they go to rehab? Here’s help.

If you’re planning to divorce, you may want to hasten your proceedings to take advantage of pre-TCJA alimony tax treatment. Here’s why.

What else do you have to divide besides your tangibles? In celebrity divorce, you may have to divide half your “goodwill”. What does goodwill in celebrity divorce mean?

Lawyers are obliged to protect their clients’ best interests; would representing both sides be a conflict of interest?

Navigating your first (or second, or third) Thanksgiving after divorce will require some extra effort, but that extra effort will be worth it. These six tips will help you get through – and maybe even enjoy – the holiday.

How to bench your inner “Kobe Bryant” in order to handle co-parenting competition and jealousy with grace – most of the time, anyway.

Learn to recognize these 7 self-sabotaging side effects of experiencing your parent’s infidelity – because if you can see it, you can change it.

Want to secretly record your spouse for evidence in your divorce? Think again!

Be careful what you post on social media and other online sites during and after divorce! You don’t want a spiteful ex to get ammunition from your social media pages to use against you.

Making a budget and stopping impulse shopping are just two ways to save money after divorce. It’s a good start – but you still have a way to go!

Back-to-school can be difficult at the best of times, but it can be especially challenging for children whose parents separated or divorced over the summer. Here’s advice on how to support your children as they return to school.

Here’s how to prepare for that all-important first date after divorce: from 7 tips for successful flirting to 16 first-date Dos and Dont’s.

Have you considered how your high-conflict divorce will affect your children?

Moving to a new home could help you move on – out of your comfort zone, but with the opportunity to make new memories.

You AND your ex’s current spouse could be eligible to receive benefits. Here’s how.

A blended family offers more family members to love and be loved by your child.

To reduce the stress of co-parenting, be flexible and resist the urge to compete with your ex-spouse.

Divorce filings spike in August. Can you beat the odds and revitalize your marriage, or is divorce inevitable? 

There are many things that go into the timing of a divorce once the petition is filed; here are 4 key factors that will affect how long it takes to get a divorce.

A post-divorce summer vacation can be a time of healing after a stressful period. Here are 4 tips to set up your summer vacation for success.

The idea of going to divorce court is daunting. If you’re nervous about how to behave in court, here are six tips for you to follow.

Some people might be ready to jump back into the dating pool almost immediately; for others, becoming ready to date again after divorce can take years.

The end of your marriage offers the opportunity to try new post-divorce hobbies and activities.

Your children and their welfare should be your most important consideration when developing a co-parenting relationship.

Will your marriage be one of the 30% to end due to your Facebook use?

Divorce is a struggle of fear and lies. Don’t be left alone or trying to sort through it all without guidance.

Your initial family law consultation may be the most important meeting of your entire case.

Are you being too hard on yourself? Follow these tips for dealing with your guilt.

The best divorce advice comes from your own heart. Here are 10 must-have inspirational messages to start your unique collection of inspirations in a language that speaks to your soul.

Divorce costs can run high if you aren’t prepared going into the divorce process. Follow these basic rules to help you save money in the long run.

The divorce process is full of pitfalls. Establishing the proper personal and professional divorce support team is crucial to navigating this challenging process successfully.

When is the right time to starting dating after divorce? Should you jump back in immediately, or stay away from the opposite sex forever (more or less)? How do you know if you’re really ready to move on?

Research shows that spirituality can boost happiness and a sense of communal support. Playing an important role in healing mind, body, and soul, spirituality can help you heal after divorce.

These tips will help you stay calm and in control while you work your way through the divorce process.

There are many lawyers out there, but finding the one that fits your requirements can be challenging. Before hiring a divorce lawyer, ask these questions during the initial interview to find if they are the right fit for you.

US marriage and divorce statistics for 2016, plus women’s and men’s divorce rates and marital status from 2000 to 2017.

After losing a relationship, you may believe you have no control over your future. However, you can take control of your life by taking the next right action. Here’s how to handle personal crisis.

As children get older, their parents’ divorce will continue to have a lasting effect on their lives. Parents of adult children of divorce should keep the following information and tips in mind.

The new tax law will have an effect on your overall divorce settlement agreement and your taxes post-divorce.

Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse can bring many challenges. Learn the eight ways to deal with a narcissistic ex when there are children involved.

If you’ve started seriously contemplating divorce, how will you know if it’s time to move on from your marriage – or any significant relationship?

Ladies, don’t go through divorce alone: build a divorce team! Here are a few professionals that should be playing and not warming the bench.

How one couple moved from grief and guilt to respect and cooperation as same-sex co-parents.

Avoiding these divorce mistakes will help your case and prevent future regrets.

Loneliness can be one of the greatest challenges for people going through separation or divorce. Group therapy can provide a safe haven, helping you heal and overcome divorce loneliness.

Whatever our brain decides is the primary justification for remaining in a bad relationship, most of these boil down to a handful of reasons why we stay in unhappy marriages. Here are the top three.

Don’t go through divorce alone! Here’s why you should engage an experienced divorce attorney to guide you through your divorce proceedings.

How an experienced financial planner can help you make wise investments, reduce taxes, and make sure your financial settlement will work for you both now and in the future.

A practicing divorce attorney offers five new year’s resolutions for you to consider.

What is parental alienation, and how to recognize it when it’s occurring.

No two divorcing couples have identical circumstances, but one potential source of income (or expense) for many divorcing people will be spousal support.

It takes courage and bravery to create a whole new life from scratch – especially after grey divorce. Here’s how.

2017

5 Tips for an Enjoyable Holiday Season after Divorce

Commit yourself to these principles and ensure an enjoyable season for all.

How Reunification Counseling Can Help Restore Your  Relationship with Your Child

Restoring your relationship with your child after parental alienation has taken place.

Where is the Money? The Financial Impact of Divorce

How the financial impact of getting divorced can have a ripple effect.

Finding Mutual Prosperity in Divorce

Divorce does not have to be a damaging experience.

Finding the Silver Lining: Can Divorce be Good?

Can divorce be good? Make changes in your life for the better.

How to Take Charge of Your Divorce Process

Don’t go with a knee-jerk reaction when beginning the divorce process.

Tips for Stepparents Entering a Blended Family

How you tackle the challenges associated with a blended family is key to happiness.

Level the Playing Field While Preparing Finances for Divorce

Consider hiring a financial advisor when preparing for your divorce.

Friends and Divorce: The Ones You Need, and Don’t Need during Divorce

Not all your friends and acquaintances may be the best for you during divorce.

4 Grounding Tools to Help With Divorce Grief

Don’t lose sight of your own physical and emotional health with these coping skills.

Parental Responsibilities and Divorce:  Why I Owed It to My Children to Divorce

What relationships will our children be a part of, based on our examples? It’s our job as parents to set the right example.

7 Reasons Why Being Friends with Your Ex Usually Doesn’t Work

There are many reasons why people strive to be friends with their ex after a breakup or divorce. But is it always a good idea?

Not Receiving Support Payments? Here Are Your Next Steps

Here are steps a spouse can take when he or she has stopped receiving support payments.

Gray Divorce: Challenges When Divorcing after 50

There are very specific sets of challenges that arise when couples divorce later in life.

5 Ways to Get Back on Track During Divorce Recovery

If you want to get back on track as soon as possible, here are 5 great ways to recover.

Are You Ready for Divorce? Ask Yourself These Questions

If you are still questioning whether or not you are ready for divorce, then consider these additional questions.

Children and Divorce:  How to Make Your Kids Feel Secure

Ways that parents can help children hold onto a sense of security throughout this difficult process.

The Lump Sum Divorce Settlements: A Trap for the Unwary

Consider the many variables before accepting lump sum divorce settlements.

Divorce Coaching and How it Can Help You

Most people have heard of divorce lawyers and litigation, but not everyone is familiar with divorce coaches. If you need some direction in your divorce, here’s why this type of coach might be the solution for you.

3 Tips for When Old Friends Desert You While You’re Coping with Divorce

When an old friend deserts you, it’s a deep cut. It’s easy to crawl in a corner and lick your wounds. But, you have a new life to create!

Protecting Children From Parental Alienation

How you overcome alienation depends on the age of your child and whether you still have communication with your child.

Four Tips for Taking a Post-Divorce Summer Vacation

For a family emerging after a divorce, a post-divorce summer vacation can be a time of healing after a stressful period.

Retirement Benefits and Divorce 

If you are currently facing divorce and navigating your retirement benefit situation, here are some thoughts to keep in mind to help this process run smoothly.

Social Media and Dating: Protect Your Online Presence

Everyone going through a divorce needs to be careful and aware of how social media and divorce activity can be used against them.

3 Tips to Help You Recover From Divorce

Depression, anxiety, stress, grief, and anger are quite likely to emerge stronger than ever when we try to recover from divorce.

Tired of Feeling Angry at Your Co-Parent? Six Things That Will Help

Consider these 6 strategies when you are feeling angry with your co-parent.

Four Considerations When Retaining a Family Law Attorney

Key questions you should be asking yourself before hiring a family lawyer.

3 Causes of Divorce and How to Avoid Them

If you want to avoid divorce, it’s important that you and your partner help each other feel relevant and appreciated.

Getting a Return on Your Investment When Dating after Divorce

Dating after Divorce: Finding the Return on Your Investment.

Is Semi-Separating an Alternative to Divorce?

The traditional separation is changing, with more couples hopping on the trend of semi-separating, ending their relationship but still living together.

The 7 Stages of Emotional Affairs

Most emotional affairs are not physically sexual, but are often more challenging for couples to overcome and forgive.

The Habits of Successful Single Parenting

The key to successful single parenting is to reflect daily upon the importance of preparing for your new life and accept that change is necessary.

The Stages of Divorce Grief

When faced with the reality of divorce, you’ll likely experience grief that is similar to losing a loved one.

Being Served With Divorce Papers

One experience that no one wants to have happen is being served with divorce papers. This is especially true when it comes as a surprise.

Enjoying Father’s Day Post-Divorce

Tips on how to enjoy Father’s Day, post divorce, with or without your kids.

7 Tips for Spending the Summer Without Your Kids

For divorced or divorcing parents, summer vacation does not have to be a battleground or source of contention.

Getting Back on Your Feet After Divorce

To have the best life you can have after divorce, you’ll have to work on yourself first. Here are 7 tips to be your best self after divorce.

Divorce and the Division of Your Assets

If you are going through a divorce, here are some tips on how to divide your assets in a way that you can remain amicable about it.

The Effects of Financial Stress in Gray Divorces

Gray divorce can often lead to significant financial stress, as the bills that were once paid by two now must be paid independently.

Coping with Mistrust in Relationships Post-Divorce

You can face your trust issues with optimism when you extend trust to those who deserve it and learn to trust yourself day by day.

4 Tips for Dealing with Worrying During Divorce

There are a lot of emotions when going through the divorce process and one of them is worrying. Worry in itself is not bad – it is how one deals with it that can be a problem.

Co-Parenting After Divorce: Learn to Let Go of Things

You and your co-parent make take very different approaches on how to handle these changes, and you may not always agree with each other.

8 Personal Finance Tips to Follow During Divorce

If you are going through a divorce, there is a lot more to deal with than just the emotional issues. There are also finances to think about.

Divorce Recovery: 4 Stages to Reclaim Your Life

Divorce is very traumatizing, but if you allow yourself to heal and utilize available support, you can emerge happier than ever before.

Two Ways in Which You May Have Contributed to Your Failing Marriage

Although your actions had the most honorable intents, there are some things to learn from your previous marriage. The fact that you made some mistakes, doesn’t mean that you are at fault.

5 Tips for Using Your Divorce Coach More Effectively

Divorcing couples are increasingly using financial and mental health support services to navigate what can be a very difficult and draining process.

Dealing with Divorce: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

For thousands of Americans, divorce is far from a light subject, but how do we begin to learn all that divorce entails, and how exactly do we deal with it?

Hidden Assets: How to Spot Them, and What to Do About Them

Divorces are stressful enough without having to worry about whether your and your spouse’s assets will be divided properly.

The Form of Child Abuse Known as Parental Alienation

Slowly, hope is building for children suffering from a form of psychological abuse known as “parental alienation” because of the growing awareness about parental alienation and its harm to children.

5 Post-Divorce Dating Tips for Dads

If you approach dating thoughtfully after your divorce and consider your children’s needs, it will pay off in the long run.

Before You Decide to Divorce, Be Prepared and Have a Plan

There are consequences you need to first consider before deciding to end your marriage.

The One Thing You Should Not Do During a Divorce: React

Disengaging or removing yourself from conflict is the best measure against ongoing future conflict.

5 Things You Should Know About Bankruptcy and Divorce

Divorce can be draining on your emotions and affect your life more than you imagined. If bankruptcy is piled on top of it, it can become even more stressful.

10 Tips for Moving on after Your Spouse Cheats

From outsourcing anger and frustration to boldly starting a new life, these 10 tips are sure to help you recover and move on after infidelity.

5 Signs You Might Not Be Ready to Date Again

Being fresh out of a marriage or long-term relationship is hard. You feel incredibly raw and vulnerable.

Justice in Family Law: 6 Things to Expect from a Good Judge

Divorce attorneys and judges are helping people at the worst times in their lives. A calm guiding hand and leadership from a judge can do wonders to help people in these situations.

Top 5 Things a Divorce Lawyer Can Do for You

Here are some of the many services a divorce lawyer can offer you.

10 Financial Questions to Ask Yourself as You Contemplate Divorce

To truly know your situation and your needs, it is important to dig deep. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself as you begin to move into the divorce process.

Looking for Positives: 3 Tips for Avoiding Negativity Throughout a Divorce

It is easy to slip into negativity during and after divorce. Dwelling on what is not working out can blind you to what is going right in your life.

7 Tips for Co-Parenting Without Losing Your Sanity

If you are struggling to co-parent with your former partner, here are some tips to help you manage the experience and make things a little easier.

2016

The Role of Your Divorce Team

When you’re ready to build your divorce team, be sure to include the professionals that have been trained in equitable and fair divorce practices.

Is Your Ex “Gift Showering” the Kids? Here’s What You Can Do

You don’t have control over your ex’s gift purchases, but you can control what you do — and the new memories you create for yourself and your kids.

Financial Abuse Is a Form of Domestic Violence

This abuse is cloaked in false “protectiveness,” a form of bullying, and a precursor to domestic violence. Financial abuse leaves no bruises, but it really, really hurts.

Second-Guessing Your Decision to Divorce?

Second-guessing this decision is unproductive. Problem-solving your present, practicing gratitude, and focusing on your current goals is where it’s at.

13 Reasons People Are Unfaithful in a Marriage

Once infidelity occurs in a marriage, those betrayed are faced with questions such as why, and whether or not forgiveness is possible.

Parallel Co-Parenting in a High-Conflict Divorce: 12 Tips for Making It Work

What is parallel co-parenting and how can it work for you?

4 Types of Alimony You Need to Know About

The ability to support one’s self post-divorce is a huge concern. Every state has different alimony statutes in effect, which vary from the type permitted to the regulations that must be met to determine whether or not one party will receive (or pay) alimony.

4 Tips for Empowering Yourself After Divorce

The unknown can be paralyzing – or it can be invigorating. Just because your divorce is final does not automatically mean that you are going to spring forward with new adventures. It all takes time, and empowerment.

10 Reasons All Couples Should Get A Prenup Before Marriage

Signing a prenuptial agreement (prenup) before you get married can help ensure your future is protected in case of divorce. Here are 10 reasons it’s a good idea to sign a prenup before you walk down the aisle.

The facile answer to this question is “no,” but in reality, “it depends” may be the better answer. There are a few considerations you must make before deciding whether or not telling the children about your or your spouse’s affair is the right step to take.

3 Helpful Strategies to Cope with Divorce

Divorce is not something that any individual foresees in their future on the day they say “I do,” but for some of us that reality has, or is beginning to, set in. While it is devastating to see the end of a relationship and the life you built with someone else, there are ways to bounce back from it.

16 Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist

Narcissists thrive in environments and relationships that appear to focus predominantly on them, fulfilling only their needs and interests.

10 Heartbreaking Confessions from Divorced Parents

Perhaps in reading these scenarios, co-parents can identify with similar issues and see how actions can have long-term negative effects or cause pain.

Tax Consequences to Consider During Property and Debt Division

Division of assets and debts may sound easy, but it is often not easy at all. You must watch for tax consequences when dividing property and debts during divorce.

Divorce Increases Chances of a Second Heart Attack:  Study

According to a recent study in Sweden, heart attack victims who get divorced are significantly more likely to experience a second heart attack.

Top 5 Do’s and Don’ts for Starting a New School Year as a Divorced Parent

As another school year begins, sometimes the difficulties of joint child rearing can become more evident. Whether it’s the scheduling of extra-curricular events or nightly study sessions, it is important that both parents are able to effectively communicate with each other in order to ensure academic success for their child.

Breaking-Up Is Never Easy: A Guide to Getting Through a Divorce

Whether you’ve just decided to tell your spouse you want a divorce or are beginning the divorce process, remember that it’s not going to be easy. Here’s a short guide to help you to get through this transition.

14 Most Common Causes of Infidelity in a Marriage

Good or bad, we live in an age where people want instant gratification and where they are not willing to really communicate and work on their problems without turning for answers in the arms of another man or woman.

Dissipation of Assets in Divorce: What You Need to Know

Divorce is a time of great distrust of between spouses. Such distrust is most likely at the root of the many possible reasons for the divorce. If money seems to be disappearing, either during the marriage or since the initiation of the divorce, it is possible that there is spending that qualifies as dissipation.

4 Common Divorce Regrets – and How to Avoid Them

While a divorce can greatly affect you emotionally, it can also impact you financially. As you go through the divorce process, remember that the decisions you make now will have long-term effects on your future.

What is “Birdnesting”- and Can it Work for My Family?

We have seen a seismic shift in the ways families are constituted in the last 20 years or so, and with that comes the opportunity to re-think the ways in which families interact with each other.

4 Things to Do to Begin Moving on After Divorce

There are four areas on which you can work to help you transition through the divorce with more ease.

7 Ways a Single Parent Can Stay Financially Fit

Estimates for raising a child are recorded at $245,340 from infancy to adulthood. As a single parent, these seven tips are going to keep you – and your bank account – happy.

Percentage of Men Awarded Spousal Support Increasing

Women have become the leading earners in many families – meaning more men are eligible to receive spousal support following a divorce. Three percent of men in divorce cases receive spousal support, a figure that is up 0.5 percent since 2000, according to the 2010 census.

Flat-Fee vs. Retainer Lawyer: Which One Fits Your Needs?

Often, the number-one concern of those facing divorce is the cost. Attorneys generally charge for their services in one of two ways, and it is important to understand the difference.

The Importance of Acquiring a Financial Order

Before finalizing a divorce, it’s important for individuals to consider obtaining a financial order – which can help prevent ex-spouses from making financial claims in the future.

 Are Women to Blame for Their Husbands’ Infidelity?

Infidelity is of interest to everyone, regardless of background, because it does not discriminate and can affect any marriage.

10 Steps to Recover from a Divorce

Going through a divorce may be a lengthy adjustment period for some. Following these ten steps may help ease the process.

Can I Divorce a Spouse Who Has a Mental Illness?

The quick answer is that legally you can, of course, end a marriage when a spouse is mentally ill. But the real question is if you can give yourself permission ethically and morally to do so.

4 Things to Consider Before You Start Dating After Divorce

Jumping into another relationship before you are ready can lead to more disappointments and hurt.

3 Ways People Sabotage Their Divorce

There’s a fine line that most people must navigate when they find themselves in the unfortunate position of going through a divorce.

Why It Matters Who You Hire in Divorce and How to Get It Right

Wherever you find yourself in the process, the decisions you make now help define what will follow.

Did You Know You Can Crowdfund Your Divorce?

We all know that divorce can be an expensive proposition. Perhaps online fundraising platform Plumfund can help offset the costs.

6 Common Mistakes Divorced Parents Make

Going through a divorce is similar to the experience of a family death. The stakes are the highest when children are involved.

5 Ways to Help Someone Who is Getting a Divorce

What are the do’s and don’ts of lending a hand to a divorcing friend in need?